I look back and I think to myself would I be where I am today if I had not gone through it all.I was the best wife I knew how to be .I was the best at evrything I tried to do for him.It didn't pan out , it didn't work.Suck it up.Get your stuff in order and now figure out what you want out of your life. I figure if I could put all of the effort I spent trying to be a great wife into something just for me how I could I help being great at it too.Learn all you can learn. Get enrolled in school(… Continue

What do you do now? You have been his wife for several years now. You are checking your drivers license to make sure that you are you .Your entire life has been built around his two jobs and well yours has just been something you did when he was working .You did everything you could to schedule time with him thinking that might help. he made other plans with (the boys) it was always with HER.He would go out take the four wheeler,come back drunk and chase you around the dead end circle where you… Continue

I tried to over look all the extra stuff he was getting on the side. That worked until I figured out what he was doing.

He was feeling very guilty about the extra candy he was getting and then decided not to take responsability for wrecking the marriage so he was going to make it look like it was all my fault. The head games were almost more than I could ever take.He would go into another room at the firehouse or at the ER where he worked and call me ,talk for a minute or two then he would… Continue

This part of being the wife is the hard part.Its hard for the kids too. Expectations run high at home.Wait until they make captain and they are very used to bossing people ! Your husband has been up all night on a big fire.He comes home to an empty house the kids are at school ,you are at work. Count your blessings ! he is now the most onry person on the planet.Up all day, Up all night .It is cold and ice was everywhere they walked or moved, it formed on their helmets,the hoses, the turnouts… Continue