I heard something on Miami Ink last night that got my attention. It was a mom getting a tatoo to help her remember who she was because she had lost herself in her kids. I don't think loosing yourself in your kids is necessarily a bad thing, but you have to remember who you are no matter what happens.

When I got married I immediately became "T's ole' lady" and I carried this identity for a few years. Then our first born became my…