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Permalink Reply by Amanda on March 27, 2008 at 11:15am

I can understand what you mean, but have to admit that I would not relocate in the event. I am extremely close with my family and friends here at home... and can't ever see myself uprooting from where I grew up.. i'm a townie at heart :)

Permalink Reply by Justa Hoser on April 14, 2008 at 11:54pm

Factors that figure in to me not being able to relocate are 1) The mortgage on my house, along with the softening market. 2)The commitment that I have made to my volunteer department, along with the investment they have made in me (custom made turnout gear) 3) I have collected too much junk to move LOL All these rolled together with the fact that I love living out in the country with no neighbors to bitch about anything.

Permalink Reply by J on April 23, 2008 at 12:20am

I can see how it's tough for you firefighters to date. I have friends who's in your shoes. But in reality it is even rough for us outsiders to date these days.We all hate to be single, sometimes being single no matter at the moment how happy you can be with it, there will be days where being single will just not be enough. In fact , it feels depressing and lonely sometimes. I have noticed that it is easier to find someone in the same field work as opposed to meeting someone outside the same field work. Even than it is hard as well. Nothing is ever THAT easy. Has for relocating I look at it this way if I was married, whether I or my spouse, had to relocate for a job, well I know for my part I would and would expect the same. After all fair is fair. But that's not the same as being single and willingly to relocate. Personally I don't know for most part but I do believe in anything's possible.

Permalink Reply by Brian on May 18, 2008 at 3:18pm

Interesting post...I've had similar thoughts myself. Not sure if I would just up and move for someone. Again as someone else said, if we were married, that would be a complete separate story. I'm working on getting to the marriage point lol, but being single....well. Yes its hard to find someone. They always say women find firefighters sooooo hot but why is it difficult to find a relationship then? I also wonder, if you do date someone that is in the same profession, not really husband/wife teams, but more of the just dating, do you instinctively worry about the other as they go on calls? I mean, of course you worry to a degree. But I think I read another post somewhere on here where someone broke up because the boyfriend didn't want her to go on calls because it was too dangerous or something. Just want to get a few opinions. Sorry for the randomness lol.

Permalink Reply by Matthew Cosgrove on May 20, 2008 at 2:50pm

It would take a lot of work to sell my house and stuff, than move to who knows where, but if I thought the woman is worth it, than I would move. Ofcourse this is after finding work, a home...ect.
I moved out of my parents home at 18 and am 1000miles away now...whats a few more or less miles.

Permalink Reply by Tavi on May 29, 2008 at 11:58pm

I think about this, too. I have found myself attracted to cops (strangely enough) as an alternative to FF's. Cops, for the most part, understand our work ethics, our hours, and the things that we see and do on the job. Another group would be your ER nurses or critical care people at the hospital. Now, all of that aside, I have dated my fair share of FF's, and there is nothing like being able to go home to someone and discuss whether or not that intubation was good, or whether you should have treated that wheezing as COPD or asthma... But, my very wise preceptors always say that having someone completely removed from the job is the only way to go because it is a breath of fresh air for you. You cannot absolutely live and breath this job every waking moment, or you will burn out. Eventually. So, there are good arguments for all sides... I, for one, have not figured out which one is the one that will win ME over, tho! Good luck!

Permalink Reply by Jojo on June 1, 2008 at 2:02am

I did I left my friends, my life, my department to be with someone and it was great but now its done. I am in a different state thousands of miles away from the people I left and can't bare to go back to the I told you sos so I am starting new on the east coast!

Permalink Reply by rav3375 on June 2, 2008 at 9:06pm

if i could find a good job and still be a volinter somewheresm ya i would relocate to be with somone