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i need someone to talk to.......i kindaa takin it hard over a death in a wreck....
Can anyone help me....? i mean it didnt bother me when i was on scene...butt now since im homee its botherin mee ...i cant seem to sleep...can anyone give m advicee
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Permalink Reply by Cody Craft on
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alrite will do
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Permalink Reply by Tony P on
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Talking to family is important in these cases. Talking to workmates is important in these cases. With this one obviously getting to you, I'd say that talking to CIS is mandatory!. Our first step with CIS is CIS Peers, other FF's that have that special empathy and training. Being FF's they understand what we can be put through. At this stage these Peers just listen, if they think more help is needed they suggest that you seek it and will send us off up the line. For us it's all official, all free (including for family members who can easily be affected by what we're going through) and confidential. I'd guess that it would be similar for you? Take advantage of it - CIS can be much better for you than well meaning but untrained friends.
Most importantly, don't think badly of yourself because this case has hit home hard. It just shows that you have empathy. You'll get there mate.
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Permalink Reply by Bill Heizer F/F E.M/T.-P on
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Hey cody, It is very common to have an event bother you after the event is over and you have cleared the scene.We as responders see things that no one should ever have to, but because we do the job, we endure the sights and smells and sounds that seem to sick with us forever. I tell my folks in the depts that i debrief, is that we do the best that we can once we get there. The damage is done when the event takes place and we are there to provide the best care and services that we can, no matter the outcome. Look at the positive aspects ofthe call, and if there were any negative aspects, use that as a learning experience. Also look to the local CISM team and hopefully you will be able to see through the feelings that you currently have. Feel free to visit with me on my page and I will awnser any questions that you might have. I hope this helps. Hang in there Brother
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Permalink Reply by Will2745 on
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Hey bro kick back on the couch turn on the weather channel and take an aspirin with a glass of water
Worst advice i have ever read on this site. HE DOESNT NEED AN ASPIRIN, HE NEEDS HELP. Talk to your chief, as him to get the CISM team in ther for you and any others that were on the scene...In my opinion, if there were first time responders there, this should have been done ASAP.
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Permalink Reply by Dave on
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Hey Cody I agree with Bill. I'm on our CIS team and trust me thet last thing you need to do is withdraw. If you are not comfortable talking to you Chief, ask any member of your dept about having a CIS defusing. Just talking about the event will help. Our job unfortunately exposes us to so awful things and how you learn to deal with them will affect your career. Try and get out and do things, go for a walk, go to the gym: activity will help the process, but you really need to talk about this. Be safe.you
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Permalink Reply by T.J. on
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Well Cody we've all gone through the same thing sometime in our career, what your going through is normal. You just need to figure out how to deal with this bad side of our job. Please talk with your Chief or Officers they wont make you feel bad or treat you like your not a man. It's not normal to see the things we see but someone's got to do the job. I hope the best for you brother.
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Permalink Reply by Dennis Brown on
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Hey Cody i know what your going threw but go talk to your fellow members or sit with your Dad if hes been doing this for years he might have the best advice to get you threw this.
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Permalink Reply by Thomas Bishop on
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Hi Cody - you may want to focus on a few thoughts.
1. We are emotional beings.
2. More intense experiences saturate our mind relatively.
3. The more intense the experience, the more it will infiltrate our thoughts and behavior.
4. We have the capability to shift our attention from past negative experiences that perseverate, to new postive experiences in the present.
5. By increasing the saturation of quality experiences in the present moment (like you are doing with your friends) you can create quality positive experiences to "outweigh" the saturation of past events.
Keep up healthy interaction like this. To the degree that you can't sleep, or take your mind off the past experiences, you can put your attention on learning more about how the brain processes experience, emotion, and stress. www.MindandThought.com
Take care.
Tom
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Permalink Reply by John on
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Get ahold of your Captain and see if he can get you the CSIM team or call the Department Clergy if you have one.
I know that most of us can lend an ear if needed to.
Take care brother, We all are here for you.
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Permalink Reply by Craig France on
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Hey There Cody!!
First Let me start by saying , That we all have been there , and will be there again,
It is good that you have feelings about this. That means that you are Human, and You have Emotions,, I have heard others tell Rookies , "Get over it , If it bothers you then you wont make it". Well I dont beleve that one bit. When we loose our Emotions, We loose our Compasion for our fellow man,
I started in this game in 1974, so I have seen my share.. Your dad sounds like a great place to start. and your Department Chaplin , if you have one,
and Talk with Your Officer ,You May not be the Only one, having a rough time, Gettung a group together that was on the run, to discuss it, may help.
Good Luck , and Please stick with it.
Craig
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Permalink Reply by Chris Harris on
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Approach your Chief and tell him whats going on, he should turn you towards a Stress Management Team or a Clergy member! It also does'nt hurt to talk the senior guys in the station. Everyone has been thru it somewhere along the way, don't keep it in or it will bother you more as your career goes on.
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Permalink Reply by Melanie11782 on
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I would see if they can have a group get together and talk.. if you are having problems so is someone else.. Keep you head up and it will get better
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