If your lucky you get a mentor. If you don't, find your butt and with both hands hold on. You are about to get the ride of your life. You will learn how to take care of small plumbing issues,car issues,kid issues,and learn how to go to all family events by yourself. You will feel the urge to get a T-shirt printed that simply says "he is at the station" so that You can stop answering that question. You will want to have several pictures around the house so when "HE" /"SHE" comes home they (the kids) don' t run away screaming thinking there is a stranger in the house. Tell them not to call 911 when they see them. Go over his all weekly.Most of the Firefighters/Paramedics that I know have the part time job that turns into just another full time job. Its not bad enough that now you are married to one of the people that run into burning buildings, when everyone else runs out !
They make the decision to FLY ! The big honor of making the flight crew at the local Trauma Center. Now you are putting picures in the car and all the places that you can now draw a BIG RED ARROW and write the letters next to the picure D.A.D.D.Y don't call the cops. You learn how to be both MOM and Dad. You will get the nightly phone call from the station when things have quieted down for a while after dinner or just before they try to go to bed for a while before they get that middle of the night call that you get to see on the morning news. You are gone to work by the time they get home. If your relationship is strong and your man is commited to you get down on your knees and say a prayer.You are a lucky woman. I can tell you from experience there are plenty of women out there that have no morals and no second thoughts about the fact he is married.It doesn't help if he forgets it too !! You ask "How does he forget??"Easy.. for several it comes very easy. You are now competeing with the Groupie. Women that have sex with them because "oh my god he is a FIREMAN !!!" YA YA what ever.They come out of the woodwork,no there is nothing to slow them or kill them. You can only hope for Carma to get them all. This now includes your husband.
Then you find out ! You have been the wife that bakes treats for the station and brings the 'other" uniform to the station and feel like you have a great life . Now its gone to crap! You can do the stupid things that I did and overlook it.My recommendation would be NO! You can't kill him. I even went to the hospial and begged the groupie to take him.She worked in the ER as an EMT.She denied knowing him which just insulted me more. I had seen her kissing him goodbye in he parking structure. I can say not all of them are like mine.Most are great guys and you need to just be there and love them and understand. This job is their dream. Live it with them.