Hi All,
So I piped at my first funeral for a retired volunteer firefighter for one of our mutual aid depts. I never realized how hard it would be to hold it together while playing, while the family and friends break down crying while I'm playing. I guess that is something I'll get used to. But what do most of you say when the family comes up after the ceremony and says thank you? I had no clue what to say. I can't say "my pleasure" and I don't want to just say "your welcome" because that sounds a little cold and unsimpathetic. Any ideas?
Bill
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Since I am not to the point where I could play in public these would only be a suggestion. "The honor was mine." "It was my privilege." Something along those lines.
It is difficult to keep emotions in check - I try to never look directly at the family, or I do get caught up in the emotion. Just like the job, it's best if you keep your emotions under control until after. As to your answer, my usual response is "I'm honored that I was asked to play."
Bill, I have played at or been part of an honor guard for both brother firefighters and military funerals. What I do is tell the family when they come up and say "Thank you.", I just say "It has been my honor." It alway is.
Bill I began piping at age 30 at the begining of my Career, and 15 years After getting involved the vollies, I was influential In getting the first "service pipe band" In the state and also have as much involvement In Other groups getting going as one might without actually being involved. My Career Boss busted my balls about being Italian and doing this, he was also italian ... ultimately he told me he wrote in his will I was Hired to play his funeral, I also had a string of Old school (WW2 era) mentors in the Fire service, I got Calls on all of them and I also attended LODD services as band member for 5 or 6 guys in my state, events such as The Memorial Dedication To the Boston Firefighters who died in the Hotel Vendome Collapse back in 1972 (The memorial was 1997), St Patricks Day 1999, a chance to enjoy marching in NYC, turned out to be a bust, when I Lost a good freind who offered to work so I could play, we were on our way home when we learned "someone On My job had heart attack at an incident , Ultimately I was Wally...
an we also had the Honor of playing the memorial service for the Worcester Mass 6 in 1999 as well as 4 of 6 of the family services.. It might seem corny, but make an impression, Greet the family, just like a funeral director would, I'm sorry for your loss, there is nothing one can say that will make this easier, If there is anything I can do, please ask, I'll do my utmost to fullfill your wishes ...
More often then Not (well, down here things are faster paced) you might not even be able to approach the Family in some venues until after the fact, again its just being respectful.. think of if the show was on the other foot...
below a picture of a CNN screen shot of us playing the Worcester 6 Procession 12/99
I'm 2nd from the left front
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