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Relationships in the firehouse...what's your take?
My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years now, we met at the firehouse when i joined, and we have successfully managed to (as i like to say) 'divorce' on the fire scene. even when he was in serious danger, i kept my cool and continued to do what i was told. I know not everyone can accomplish that. i was just wondering if anyone else is in or has been in a successful firehouse relationship or if anyone is completely against it?
what's your opinion?
what's your opinion?
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Permalink Reply by Engineco913 on
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I have a small issue with this comment. As well as it is that your dad is a "career" chief, and I don't take anything away from what he is or has done, I feel you kind of are belittling your boyfriend by comparing him as just a volly lt. Last I checked an officer is an officer, they had to do somethings right to get where they are. Is the fact hes a volly make him any less of an officer? I think not. Not a good comparison in my eyes, sorry.
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Permalink Reply by Sandy113 on
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i'm a volly too!...and sad as it is, in some combination departments, career beats out volly hands down! i dont like it since im a volly but its the truth. also lt. beats out chief lol!
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Thats your opinion, and also your first ammendment right too. For the record, a chief outranks a Lieutenant. Even in the case you have an administrative chief, he still outranks the senior lieutenants on the fireground. Morally it may be wrong because of the schooling levels, but politically correct. I also understand your a volunteer. In my eyes, I would love to be paid to be a firefighter. In reality, there are no positions available, and I make more money doing what I am now. In my opinion, being paid or volunteer doesn't make you any less of a firefighter. It is also my opinion that some volunteers can have comparable training to some paid departments. (myself included) It isn't the pay that makes the importance of the person, it is the level of commitment and training. Again, I'm not trying to get in a pissing match, but your portraying a flawed theory
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Permalink Reply by Joe Sheldon on
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Very tough topic, and very emotional for some. Personally, I think it's best to avoid the situation. At some point a relationship ends up 1 of 3 ways... marriage, bad break-up, or good break-up. Any odds on how many relationships end up with marriage or good break-ups? I'll bet the majority are bad break-ups, which can definitely cause problems down the road. Any way, just some thoughts.
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Permalink Reply by turk182 on
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I am an Assistant Chief with 19 years service I do not think she meant to offend anyone by the just vol. LT., I think she was just trying to go along with the joke. I am sure she respects the position her boyfriend holds just take it in the nature that it was said.
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well too late for that for me!!! lol 2 years into it and insanely in love....too late lol!
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Permalink Reply by TWYLLA on
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I see you have gotten quite a few positive and negative responses..Here's one more positive.. My husband and I have known each other since highschool.. When I became a volunteer for one of our Parish Departments, we were getting ready to have a watershuttle.. Of course we needed the Tanker fom the other department (which is what my husband drives).. after the watershuttle was done everyone came back to our station to eat.. That's when it became a "Hey I know you!" conversation. ( we hadn't seen each other in 6 years.) I stayed with the CFD 6 for a few more months while we "talked" and "dated", then I transferred to his station, CFD5, we became engaged and of course we are now married...When we are at the station and when we are on calls we know how to handle ourselves and have never had issues with ourselves as well as NONE with the department...Good Luck Hun, I hope it works for you!! But you have to be willing to compromise on things!!
By the way, we've been married for 2 years and together for 3 1/2 and still going strong!!
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Permalink Reply by Spanner 122 on
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I don't think it's smart. We have a couple of husband/wife couples and another that is dating. The married couples are on different platoons so they have very little chance or working together. We also have siblings and father/sons and also a father/daughter on the job and they do their best to at least keep them at opposite ends of the city.
but as one man I worked with who's brother also works in the same district (other house), if it's your blood brother or your work brother who goes down at the scene, you are going to react the same.
Also, dating another firefighter... never. Can't and won't do it.
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Permalink Reply by Matthew on
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I fully agree Engine. I'm not knocking her for dating within the firehouse. God knows I dated co-workers in my past, not since I have become a firefighter, but many moons ago I made the same mistake. I did however see the ramifications of my choice in hindsight. I did it early on in my EMS career and it led to people not taking me serious as an officer at the time. I'm just trying to point out the possible negative aspects which she may already know about. I hope it works out for them, and that they can make it work.
At the same time she has made many statements about not being taken seriously becasue of her gender, and I wanted her to see that this could possibly be as a result of her relationship. I wanted her to understand, or try to understand, a possible perception that could be precluding her from being taken seriously, or as a source to the doubt. I threw my opinion in there about it not working, not due to ill will, that is just my read on the situation. I could be wrong and I hope for their sake I am.
Maybe the Hooters comment was out of line as well, but it certainly raises an interesting point.
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