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A girl is confronted in the bathroom by a friend of 6 years, whom appears quite troubled....The girl asks her friend what is wrong.....her friend doesn't answer her until the girl touches her shoulder....then she breaks down and tells the girl what is wrong ......giving her quite a list of things. Then the friend (in confidence) pulls out a razor blade and tells the girl that she is thinking about using it.....The girl knows her friend quite well and knows that she is distressed and that the friend has hurt herself before.....so she asks her friend to give her the razor the friend refuses putting it in her pocket.....Then the friend slips the blade in her own pocket and starts hitting her head against a locker, the girl stops her and trys to hug her friend until her friend finally hugs her back and then goes to leave. The friend (still worried about her friend) follows her out....on the way out the friend punches a door, and the girl patiently trys to get the blade from her friend. The friend does not give up the blade, the girl asks her one more time to give her the blade and the friend still refusses.....the girl goes back to her class and tells her ff teacher that she needs to go talk to a friend before she does something she shouldn't......the teacher takes the girl to the side and coaxes her into telling him what is going on, he calls the appropriate people and the girl is taken by some one to give all the info she knows....and her friend happens to see her when the people take her from her class....The girl's in tears for hurting her friend. but feels she had to do it....and she is told that what she did is also the role she takes as an emt....and that her friend was asking for help by telling her what she did.....The next day the friend confronts her telling her three things ....1 she is sorry she scared her....2 she kind of wants tosay thank you b/c now she can move away from her terrible home life....3 she never wants to talk to her again.....The girl thinks "Great I saved my friend just to lose her" then she stops and thinks..."But it is better for me to have saved her and lost her as a friend than to have remained quiet and let her be lost to the world..." What do you think?
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Comment by Firefighter Dison on December 6, 2008 at 8:06pm
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yes that was the right thing to do
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Comment by Ron Maddox on December 6, 2008 at 12:33am
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Sooner or later your friend will get the help she needs and she will come back to you. Like any othe aspect of our job sometimes you just need to set back after you do something and let it bloom......
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Comment by Joe Stoltz on December 5, 2008 at 4:31pm
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What the others say - you did the right thing. Better for her to be alive and pissed at you, than in critical condition (or worse) and unable to talk. I am sure she will someday thank you.
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Comment by Cathy Shipley on December 5, 2008 at 12:39pm
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Hey girlfriend...I figured it was you, and I wanted you to get the proper praise..I'm so very proud of you for doing what you did, and you should be very proud of yourself as well. Great job!!!!!!!
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Comment by Jenelle on December 5, 2008 at 12:34pm
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Thanks...all of you I do feel quite a bit better about what I did....although I thought that if I didn't use my name then people would think I found it somewhere and posted it...and I would have still recieved what I some outsider advice...I didn't want it to seem as though I was out looking for attention, because I am not.....I was scared and upset about what I had done to my friend and really wanted (and perhaps needed) to know that what I did was the right thing...So thank you..
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Jenelle...is this a story about you? If it is, then say so. This is a great learning experience to share with everyone, and I thank you for sharing it here, as we have a lot of young members on this site. The friend that helped, is truly a great friend, and a wonderful human being. I would like all the pats on the back that you are getting here to go to the right person. I will however pat you on the back for sharing such a great and moving story...thank you for sharing such a great learning experience.
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Comment by Dennis Brown on December 5, 2008 at 10:08am
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Jenelle you are called a true friend what you did for your friend was save her life she may be mad now at you but one day she will thank you for this i hope she gets the treatment she needs bless you job well done
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Comment by Kimberly A Bownas on December 5, 2008 at 8:09am
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Jenelle, you did do the right thing. I have a friend that told me that she was going to hurt herself and there was absolutely nothing I could do. She told me outright that if I did tell anybody it wouldn't matter cause she would accomplish it at another time. I tried to get her to rethink what was she was planning. About two days later her husband called me and told me that she was being taken to the hospital for taking an overdose of pills. She is fine now. She learned a lot from that experience and that it will never happen again. She told me all about what she went through and she said it was the most helpless feeling she ever had. I stuck by her through everything. I do know that at that time she was right if I managed to stop her at that time it would be just a matter of time in the future she would have done it anyways. She is very thankful that I have stuck by her through all of this. Her and I are still friends, I was just about the only one of her friends that didn't bail on her or tell her how stupid it was and not talk to her anymore.
What I can tell you is give your friend time. Be there for her no matter what. You did a great thing and know you did the right thing...
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Comment by Heather Dashwood on December 4, 2008 at 7:29pm
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it sounds so heroically that feels like a novel............... how many of us are capable of such things?
we are more human than we think................
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Comment by PA Firefighter on December 4, 2008 at 5:35pm
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YOU DID THE RIGHT THING. It is much better to lose her as a friend than have her hurt herself. She will thank you someday. Good Job.
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