I feel a little embarassed to be on this site since I'm not in the Fire Dep. nor am I a rescue professional but don't stop reading yet...
I'm here because I can't think of a better place to ask for advice!

5 years ago I was the victim of an assault. The first guys to show up where the Firefighters...
When I was a little girl, when anyone would ask me what I wanted to be when I grow up, I would answer: "Firefighter!".
Today, I'm divorced, I raise my son on my own, but I had to keep a job I hate in order to pay the bills...

I'm a single mom of a 7 y old little boy, I live in Miami, and have worked my butt off my whole life, and I want to be a firefighter. I know...I'm far from being the only one..
It's not the job "security" I want, but more the service provided, the possibility of being helpful and even saving a life, being there when there's a need...

The issue is: What is it with people telling me that "You CAN'T do it! It's TOO HARD!" ??? I figured it all by myself, thank you..but why can't I? I mean, yes, I gotta start running again, I gotta have to stop smoking, I want to live a healthier life. I gotta go back to school at night so I can keep my job, take care of my son, but I'm driven.

I haven't looked into the exact "path" to follow yet, in order to acquire as much as I can before I take the test. I was pretty sure I wanted to do this, before I heard so many discouraging things about my not being "strong" enough (I mean physically) to become what I always wanted to be: A firefighter. Being a single parent gives me strenght and motivation to do anyhting I can do show my kid how life should be lived. Do your best, no matter what and nothing should get in your way as long as it feels right but yet...I'm lacking confidence now...

Among you guys, there's single parents I'm sure, and I want to be out there and start changing my life in a positive way! But by starting this I'm afraid I won't be able to be there for him.

What would be YOUR insight on this? should I do it? How long is it going to take me (more or less)? Is it selfish of me to want to "help out" others and not spend as much time with my kid?

Thank you for doing what you do...

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Maruska, Go get em Girl. Your attitude and drive will get you to your goal. The way I look at things when someone trys to tell me I cant do something or I wont succeed just makes me more determined to do just that and prove them wrong. You obviously have the desire and drive to make it happen for yourself. Go get em!!
Go for it. I would start in a volunteer dept first . I just got into it about 1 1/2 years ago and I am training. I just took my hazmat opps. I don't get treated bad at my dept. I am just one of the guys. I try and they all help me in understanding all my questions and concerns. You learn alot being in a volunteer dept and you will get the respect. Good luck
When there's a will, there's a way!
i would say there are some ppl out there that dount want to see us secead in what you want to do any woman can become a firefighter if she wants to so go for it do ure best and i would all so say trey a volley fire dept first get in if they will let u and work ur way up
All I will say if you want to be a firefighter, go for it. You can do anything that you put your mind to. Good Luck
I very much trust in you. It is difficult to me to discuss this theme. But I think that at you all will be good, because I see in your words aspiration to dream. Believe. In my country to lonely girls is very hard. Try to talk on this theme to parents and friends. Somebody can can help you. The main thing it not to despond and achieve the =))
I've heard the same thing over and over again, but if you talk to actual firefighters, they will always and I MEAN ALWAYS give you words of encouragement. I am currently in the EMT program and pretty much everyone is there to become a firefighter. And everyone in the class is always giving others encouragement, people talk about quitting or not understanding something and everyone helps each other. I've only been in the program for three weeks and I've made so many great friends and people I can talk to. I have also met some great firefighters who told me to never heisitate to call or email them for help on anything. So don't listen to the negative stuff. Just go after it and never give up.
Anythings possible, if being a firefighter is your dream by all means go for it. Start by becoming an EMT.
Oh my my...I haven't been able to stop thinking about it!!you guys are so positive it's scary! lol! I watched the test of admission on youtube today- and it's TOUGH!!! Helped me figure out how I need to prepare myself sure but hey! those big guys are out of breath after those 10 min! I'm only half of a woman! lol! well, not really... but not as strong and in shape! those stairs seem to kill all the energy you got in the first couple of minutes...not mentioning the weight they put on you! will go back to running as soon as tomorrow. Then, gym-gym-gym. It's amazing how much of a "wake-up call" it is... You got it. I'm doing this- Thank you SO MUCH for all those good words. Really...it means a lot to me..Promise to keep you posted.
I guess the people I know here in the States know me as a different person from the one I used to be...I have always been super active before I had my kid, and then the divorce we went through was pretty tough on my moral but I made it. Today I found an old buried strength in myself...I finally know what I want, without having to ask anyone's permission or approval. Not everybody I know tells me "you can't", but I guess those who do, consider that because I'm "small" and a woman, I won't be able to achieve anything physical, and certainly don't expect to see me walking around with a 75# equipment on my back without being crushed! lol!
It's all a matter of getting back in shape. I'm small, yeah, but I'm strong too, and the fact that I'm a single mom leads people to believe I'm not cut for this.
To me, it's the opposite! I live in a country where I have no family, no financial help, and I'm on my own with a kid. This alone made me so much stronger! I went from 10 years of being in a abusive and controlling relationship to a being single again, with a huge responsibility: my son to raise, completely alone.
People here on this forum are way more open minded and above all, have a positive attitude. It's all there!! They don't take no for an answer, and I love this attitude! Even though they don't know me, they just stick with the belief that ANYONE is able to do ANYTHING as long as they really want it. I teach this to my kid everyday, the tough part is to apply it to yourself, and I just realized that I should follow that rule always and no matter what...
u can do it
If you want it, you go get it.

don't let anyone tell you you "can't," because you know you can. If you're on here and asking the questions you're aksing, then you know what direction you want to go in. Get in shape, quit smoking and apply to become a Firefighter. You never regret doing it, but you will regret it if you never do it.

Find some poeple who tell you "you can," and lose the naysayers.

Welcome to the family.


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