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A little background for everyone here Joel was the Chief for Kandiyohi county Rescue Squad for some time and was one of the driving forces for better training and mutual aid in our county. I worked with Joel on numerous occasions over my 10yr career in Raymond. He taught me everything I know about extrication. He was a mentor for a lot of people during his career on Nov 9, 2009 he went into surgery for a valve replacement. He passed away from complications of the surgery in the operating room.
My wife deals with life insurance(when she talks about work I fall asleep it really is that boring). A couple days after the funeral she says I have two things I need to talk to you about.
1. "Why didn't you tell me they were going to a last call for him. I started crying as soon as I heard it." I looked at her and said do you know why most of us were wearing sunglasses out there? Most of us had tears as well. I said this is the man that talked me into getting into EMS as much as I am. Stood with his arm on shoulder after some of the crappiest calls anyone will ever see. And he wasn't that way just for me he was that way for a lot of people.
2. "I know we have life insurance on you but do you have a living will or anything like that and if you are killed in the line of duty how do you want your funeral to be and things like that." that question really got my attention and made me think. Im young and healthy so I had never thought about it.
So my question is have you thought about it so when your family is going through a hard time they dont have to try to make decisions that might put more stress on them? And Im not trying to sell anything just trying to give you some food for thought.
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Permalink Reply by Fabulous Heather Days of Summer on
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Tim - I am so sorry for the loss of your friend.
While your wife may have a boring job topic, I am glad that she stimulated you to bring up this topic.
Making arrangements for those you leave behind is often more important than your day-to-day-living plans, since your family will be under emotional stress and duress and what a relief and gift to have all the plans prepared for them.
I know some departments have visitor guest trainings come give a presentation and paperwork packets on issues such as planning advance directives, will/trust, life insurance and funeral arrangements.
AND ALWAYS MAKE SURE THAT YOUR SPOUSE CAN EASILY LOCATE ALL DOCUMENTS AND HAS OPEN ACCESS TO ALL ACCOUNTS SO THAT THEY CAN EASILY PUT MATTERS IN ORDER IN THE EVENT OF YOUR DEATH
I can not tell you how many women I know that have no understanding of how to manage money and manage their own household, especially when their husband dies. All chaos suddenly arupts when a spouse dies, and despite women being more savvy with household money than women were 80 years ago - I see bad things happen to women widows aleast a few times per year - no matter the age of the woman.
MEN BECAUSE YOU LOVE YOUR WOMEN - PROTECT THEM BY SITTING DOWN AND PUTTING ALL DOCUMENTS IN ORDER - and keep all documents in order, with an update chat at least every 6 months with your spouse.
A safety deposit box works well to store copies of all records together in a safe place. But make sure your spouse knows where the key is and understands how to read all the documents and what transactions will need to occur IN THE EVENT OF DEATH OR ILLNESS OR INJURY...
So many women I know have suddenly ended up in a bankrupt mess after their husbands die.
My 2 cents...
TIM - YOU NEED TO BUY YOUR WIFE SOME FLOWERS FOR BRINGING UP THIS ISSUE !!! She probably just saved dozens of spouses and children many months of heartache and financial stress.
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Permalink Reply by M.J. 6821 on
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Heather she only gets flowers on very special occasions or when I do something wrong since we have been together she has gotten flowers 3 times.
1. I crashed a snowmobile racing and destroyed a 10k sled and a $500 snowmobile suit.(I wasn't supposed to be racing) while they were doing wedding dress shopping for our wedding.
2. When we found out we were having a boy.
3. The day after her 30th bday bc I was told if I did anything on her birthday I was a dead man.
Otherwise you have some great ideas. Although I think this post will have crickets chirping because no one really wants to think about it.
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I AM A GIRL - AND I AM RIGHT - GET YOUR WIFE FLOWERS - TIME TO SET A NEW PATTERN IN YOUR RELATIONSHIP - IT WILL GET YOU SOME EXTRA LOVING I AM SURE (in case you need to know what is in it for you)
Flowers say "You Rock" not just "I am an ass, please don't kill me"
Tell her they are from me - if you need an excuse...
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ANY WIFE that puts up with her husband having a nickname associated to an ex girlfriend - is an AMAZINGLY TOLERANT WIFE - M.J. !!!
So I think SHE ROCKS !!!
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But I am sure there are plenty of OTHER things that she does know - AND YET she STILL LETS YOU LIVE !!!
Because she rocks...
So what do you tell her when she asks... what is an MJ?
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GOOD SAVE !!!
Even the name on your t-shirts...? LOL... when everyone else has their real name...? hee hee... you are a good scam artist... hee hee
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