Good comment Norm. The point is: we were called to this incident to mitigate the situation as safely,efficiently, diligently as possible. No matter what the situation was, we didn't cause it. Its our job through our background and training to attempt to provide a positive outcome in what ever manner possible. Its then up to God to work out all the fine details. It is so very important as leadership and crew members to communicate an demobe after calls to what ever level. Though we all know we gave it our best there are sometimes situations that we could not avoid or change. Its at those moments where we need each other to confirm what we did and the best job we could do. Again! it up to God to sort out the finer details!
Talk to someone. Please.
Don't be like me and let it eat at you. I run as a vollie on an ambulance
I had a cardiac arrest where my medic froze and immediately began blaming me for this woman's death.
I have nightmares, I see her face, everywhere. Its a rough, and I still cannot face my demons. I have done some horrible things to myself over this one call.
Speak to someone. Don't let it simmer in you, don't be like me and let it tear you apart!
You guys do realize the original post is 5 years old, right?
No I did not.
Yes, but after thinking about that for a few seconds I decided there are others among us who are having the same thoughts. This is a subject worth talking about any time. You've probably had some CISM training, so hopefully you're as interested in the subject as I am.
I agree Norm,
There are some topics that can be resurected, but it helps to look at the dates pertaining to the original post. The posts by Darrell and Sarah were directed at the original post not a discussion in general.
Sure the discussion can be pertinent, but folks need to do a better job of either reading responses so there is not the constant repeating of oneself (like the water shuttle thread) as well as to look at the original date of the thread to gauge pertinence.
For sure. Reading these posts is part of why I'm here...to learn from all you guys who have better ways of doing things.
Regardless of the posting date, hopefully CISD should be in all department's regular routine for these types of incidents.
I struggled and still find my last fatality response to be hard to forget. Been on numerous fatalities and failed rescues, my last one just sucked.
I have talked it out with my fellow firefighters and I think about it far less now. I think what really got to me is an emergency quickly turned into a DOA, but our job was not done. The accident scene was in a state controlled road blocked area, so the state crash investigators took their time, plus our county coroner was away on vacation and we had to wait 2 hours for his replacement. Then came the extrication. Usually extrication is quick done during the adrenaline phase of the call, where you are just reacting to the situation and focused on your job.
Its a different ball game when your put on hold for 2 hrs. Too much thinking and less reacting.
It gets better, talk it out but don’t dwell on it. Time will help. My biggest help was getting an idea of why this one bothered me more.