Cheating On the Spouses.

I have been part of the department for some time. You have to admit it feels good to hear girls/ladies say hello, wink, wistle, whatever. And for the ladies, when the guys do the same. I understand on duty the professionalism is held to the highest. But what about off duty? I know plenty of married firefighters that have or currently are cheating on their spouses. I personally find it disrespectful to the families and disrespectful to the department. It's like and in most courtrooms, a crime. If you ask a judge, they will rule in the favor against the cheater. Now know that they don't get time for the wrong doing. But down to simple morale, it's f**ked up. How do people hold their heads high with the knowing that you screwed up your family or another family for a simple go round.? How do you look at your spouse, that I might add is proud of what you do and brags about it, in the face every morning? Your spouse is backing you and your tough schedule, your horrible calls, and your home. Another question is how do you look at your children? I don't understand the concept of getting married and then cheating. Here is a thought, DON'T GET MARRIED YOU MORON! Maybe I'm a little old fasion at the age of 24, but all I have to say is F**K you and MAN UP! Not only the fact that sleeping with multiple people is wrong, but naturally dangerous. You can get STD's and not know it. And then bring that shit to work. Keep that stuff away from me. I have enough shit to worry about without you bringing something to work.

But this is my feelings on this. Ya'll let me know what you think. And I'm open to both sides of the story. I wanna know. It's just mind boggling to me.

Justin Hill

0 members like this

Replies are closed for this discussion.

Replies to This Discussion

Permalink Reply by Art "ChiefReason" Goodrich on March 3, 2008 at 11:37am

Is there a problem with behaving like CIVILIZED adults?
Divorce? Look around; it's not just fire/police/EMS getting divorces. Many don't know what "commitment" means anymore.
Trust? How can your crew members trust you if you have shown them that you can't be trusted?
Going to Hell? I don't think someone who cheats is too concerned about that.
You want to act like a rabbit? Then you shouldn't have gotten married in the first place.
Art

Permalink Reply by Robert Owens on March 3, 2008 at 9:29pm

I agree with certain of the comments and others I don't. I don't feel that cheating comes from lack of love but lack of excitment. I have never cheated on my wife. Is it tempting? sure it is but to me its not worth the consequences. But even if me and my wife got divorced I would always love her. She is the mother of my son you have to love a little part of that.

The STD thing is just ignorant especially if we are using universal precautions. Good thought provoking post though.

Permalink Reply by mike wright on March 3, 2008 at 9:59pm

What bothers me is that we are more commited to our job than to our family. Yes it is nice to have a comment from the opposite sex, but how many of us actually act upon it? If we can go through years of fire service without question then why cant we go through many years with one partner. The service can have alot more bad times than good but hopefully with family we have alot more good times than bad. This is what confuses me about people these days. When we have a good thing why does it seem the grass is greener on the other side?

Permalink Reply by Robert Owens on March 3, 2008 at 11:06pm

You know its funny we had a discussion about this at work the other day about priorities and if you were "married" to the job. I may be the odd ball and thats fine so don't go attacking me but my list goes
1. My Son
2.Fire Dept
3.Wife

now I love my wife ans she puts up with alot but even if she is gone the FD and my son will still be there so thats why I consider them higher priorities. She gets pissed off when I tell her that but she knew what she was marrying I was in the FD long befor I married her. I may be messed up but oh well.

Permalink Reply by Chris Cable on March 4, 2008 at 7:18am

I agree with alot of what is being said..I have been down the road and it is one straight to hell.......I am fortunate i guess MY LOVING SPOUSE somewhat understood and OUR RELATIONSHIP HAS GROWN STRONGER...... IF YOU EVER THINK ABOUT IT JUST DON'T DO IT IF YOU WANT THE PORNO SEX OR THE WHATEVER TALK TO YOUR SPOUSE AND TELL THEM WHAT YOU WANT MAYBE SHE/HE WANTS THE SAME THING BUT REMEMBER YOU WON'T KNOW TILL YOU ASK!!!!!

These are my opions and don't reflect those of any of my employers

Permalink Reply by Greenman on March 7, 2008 at 12:13am

I'm with you all the way. There is no room in our line of work of lack of integrity, it is indicative of a basic flaw in your character.

GM

Permalink Reply by Justin Hill on March 8, 2008 at 12:12am

As much as I'm against extra marital affairs, your point does make sense. It's none of my business as to what my co-workers do. And it shouldn't bother me. But my side stands on if it makes my/our department bad, I have issues with it. Keep it as far away from work. Thanks for the reply.

Permalink Reply by Andrew Zebolsky on March 8, 2008 at 6:48am

Not being married...I love the attention I get from it. Not saying I joined the fire service BECAUSE of the attention, but being able to look at a woman and when she asks what I do, say "I'm a firefighter", does have a certain "nicety" to it. Again though, I'm not married. If I was, I'd probably be at home sleeping trying to shut out the noise from the kids playing downstairs screaming at each other.

Permalink Reply by Art "ChiefReason" Goodrich on March 8, 2008 at 9:33am

Cheating is NOT a character flaw.
Cheating on anything is something that you have to plan, practice then execute.
However; it shows a LACK OF CHARACTER!
TCSS.
Art

Permalink Reply by Robert on March 8, 2008 at 10:15pm

i agree.

Permalink Reply by Justin Hill on March 8, 2008 at 10:31pm

My wife didn't cheat on me. I'm sorry if I came across like that to you. But you and I are on the same boat. My wife and I both know where each other are at any time. I'm just talking about the cheaters. Sorry about the confusion.

Justin

Permalink Reply by Firefighter Nation WebChief on March 9, 2008 at 12:13am