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Permalink Reply by Michael Meadows on June 2, 2010 at 9:43pm

Not at all Jack everyone has good days and bad days. Some people just have more bad days than good. And some people stir the pot. Sad those people who have to do that. Kinda like you. Stirring the pot. LOL I love people like you Jack I really do. And I take nothing personal on here, or at least I try not too. Sometimes I do and when I do I take a step back and a deep breath. And I just gotta know are you some kind of mind reader or something? How else do you know what I can relate to? Clearly you don't know me very well. I don't mind strong opinions from anyone male or female. However I still can't for the life of me figure how this post is a bad post. He's already explained his motivation for this post ad nauseum, so why are you so up in arms about it? There are many on here who have contributed to this topic in a positive way and you and Kali quite frankly wanted to stir the pot. I'm not sure of your motivation and it's your privilige to do so. But those of us with positive things to say about our loved ones also have the right to respond and yes give our own opinions. I'm sorry if you don't love your wife like we do, everyone expresses things differently, and if you don't like it then thats fine feel free to express that, which I see you already have. But don't put words into my keyboard or think that you can do better than I can on phrases which I can relate. Because when it comes down to that, you don't know jack, Jack.

Permalink Reply by Jack/dt on June 2, 2010 at 10:18pm

Michael,

Funny that you seem to take offense by my doing what you yourself did with Kali. You presumed that she was in a bad place. I may have overstated my presumption of you, but it was only a difference by degree. Your statement expressing your sorrow that I don't love my wife like you do goes beyond presumption and is a thinly veiled insult, one to which I take offense at.

It isn't a question of who loves whom, the most or the greatest. It was (speaking for myself) one in a myriad of pablum-based posts designed to elicit saccharin-esq replies in an attempt to drum up a listener base for a future broadcast, which didn't seem to be all that relevant to firefighter issues. In my initial reply here I listed a couple of ideas (and links) that are relevant and address the issue (?) of "special" spouses. So much for trying to further the discussion along a relevant plane.

To your point about stirring the pot, I've indeed done that. This however was just me expressing my view point. Funny how when an opposing opinion is posited it ends up being view as either intentionally contrarian or as pot stirring. As for putting words into your keyboard, again it's the cauldron calling the kettle black.

As for me not knowing jack, you again are wrong, I know both jack, and Jack. Eloquent sentiments aside, you really are just pounding your keyboard.

P.s. Firefighter NetCast didn't seem to think I was stirring the pot. Perhaps the issue does indeed lie within yourself. Just a thought.

Permalink Reply by Brian Mackie on June 2, 2010 at 10:29pm

Thanks John for the invitation, but I respectfully decline. I am way to shy for that. Besides, I don't even know what avarice means.
But I will most certainly take a spare lung instead.
I would prefer if you would put a plug in your broadcast for organ donors. That would be a good thing. (again just my unbiased opinion) ;)

Permalink Reply by Jason M Albert on June 2, 2010 at 10:43pm

I saw this post and didn't quite understand all the bickering. I agree that all spouses who support their significant others are special and as also stated are in our eyes our heroes. But the post was about our wives, so here's another reply I'll get blasted on but its my opinion. I am a 5th generation Vol. I do it because I enjoy it. My wife never wanted to be a firehouse "groupie" like in her eyes the other wives, girlfriends, etc. were. The more I became involved, the more she did. I grew up in a hosebarn and now I watch my kids do the same. She supports not only me but our company (we have 3 in our Department). She volunteers her time if not more than we do. She enjoys the fundraisers, she enjoys our group of firehouse friends, she supports me in what I do. But she does that anyway. At my work, with our kids, in my hobbies. Does she worry? Yes. Does she mind the activities I miss because of a call? Yes. All of our significant others do. But they all support us. I can't thank all of those who support us enough regardless of who it is. And I also thank those men fighting overseas, and the police, and the EMTS, and the utility workers, and the mailmen, and my kids baseball coach, . . . . .

Permalink Reply by Michael Meadows on June 2, 2010 at 11:15pm

Funny how you always seem to know what I'm thinking. Now you also know what I take offense to. Did I say I was offended? No I don't think I did. Also I said that you MAY not love your wife as I do my fiancee'. Not worse just different and perhaps me expressing sorrow for that was over the top. You are right this is not a contest, nor should it have been. And kali comes off as bitter. espically about the fire service and I merely took up for it. Perhaps it's my turn to mindread and speculate that you didn't read all the posts. Perhaps you missed that. Or is it that you are as bitter about the fire service as she is and wish to wallow in that same pond? Which is as I have said is your right. And it is my right to call you and her on it. However when I am offended I will say so and I will say what I mean I have no need for interperters. And allow me to clarify one thing for you, you don't know jack about me, Jack.

Permalink Reply by Derek R. on June 2, 2010 at 11:16pm

Dang, you have it pretty bad Kali. I don't know how you are able to cope with the heavy load.
Maine's not that bad of a place to be, but hey, I'm Canadian, anywhere is fine to me.

Permalink Reply by Quinton Lejeune on June 2, 2010 at 11:20pm

I have had some pretty rough calls and some good calls and my wife has been behind me 110%. She has brought food a water for all the guys she been there when the bad calls where a little to much for me to take in. what I'm getting at is that she is the perfect firefighters wife....

Permalink Reply by Fire Critic on June 2, 2010 at 11:54pm

Wow.... What the hell happened with this discussion.

I thought we were talking about our "Special" Wives.

Like Kali pointed out, other jobs have people who work at them and might also have "wives". If you are looking for those discussions just go on over to the forums for that job and create a thread...Here we are discussing Firefighter wives.

True to the point, this should actually be Firefighter "spouses". Since there are firefighters married to men as well.

I am sure there are plenty of firefighters out there who have spouses that could care less what they do. I am not one of them.

My wife is one of the best. What makes her special in the realm of being a "firefighter" wife is the fact that she understands my work schedule, time off, and everything else that comes with the job.

The reason for the discussion and thoughts of using this topic on a future Firefighter Netcast is because John and I have had the pleasure of networking with plenty of firefighter wives who enjoy the fact that they are married to a firefighter. We plan on utilizing some of them in the future netcast. We also want to learn more here in the discussion.

Rhett

Permalink Reply by Jack/dt on June 3, 2010 at 12:01am

Canadian, eh? That explains it. :)

Permalink Reply by Ron Ayotte on June 3, 2010 at 12:39am

There is no "perfect" firefighters wife/husband/lover/significant other... and there will never be.

They are human just like everyone else.. and humanity is far from perfection.

Permalink Reply by FETC on June 3, 2010 at 7:40am

I guess I am confused as to why they are so special as well? I would suspect all wives are special to the significant other, otherwise you wouldn't have married them. In your original thread you mention them being there for "him" and got his back or handling last minute scheduling changes...

Most wives I know have fulltime careers as well... your post leads me to believe they stay home and take care of the homefront. On a single income firefighters pay, most spouses simply can't afford to stay home. If they do, the firefighter tends to take on job #2 or #3...

As far as dangerous, well in between thousands of runny nose medicals maybe your number hits a decent "dangerous" call once in a while. My wife has even said to friends, "yeah he works alot of hours, but they don't do much..."

Thats special.

Permalink Reply by Firefighter NetCast on June 3, 2010 at 9:32am

I must say I am disappointed in the attitudes and methods some of our brother and sister firefighters have chosen to use in "participation" of our well-meaning post.


By utilizing acerbic verbiage and antagonistic tone, they show they care not about those who may hold opinions differing from their own. but rather focus on how best to demonstrate their combustible intolerance and inability to accept and move on.

There is a larger story here. These brothers and sisters have axes to grind from previous run-ins and are only too eager to use your discussion posts as their grinders. They thrive on spending an inordinate amount of time scouring your well-meaning posts for targets and pounce to fulfill their childish needs.

Pitiful, sad, and uncharacteristic of true brothers and sisters who share valuable insight in an effort to become better at what we do.

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