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Permalink Reply by GirlyFireFighter on March 21, 2009 at 12:03am

That is crap.. If this is something you love then they should understand respect and support that and try to be there for you and your brothers/sisters with the dept as much as they can. They can always do auxillery and bring you water and cookies and stuff to the scene. Or get a scanner and listen to whats going on. There are many things they can do to ease their mind about it but them freaking out and causing you more stress anly makes it more dangerous for you because you have them freaking out on your mind when you go into that blaze and your head isn't where it needs to be. That is why I ended up divorced. My husband couldnt relax about it and I tried to understand from his standpoint cuz he watched his father be murdered and then they set the house on fire when he was 7. So I tried to see his point however he never seen mine. So I understand what you are going through and if a girl wants to be with you she will understand that doing this is what you love and she won't ask you to give it up instead she will stand behind you and pray for you and your brothers/sisters to come home safe everytime

Permalink Reply by Mike Lintz on March 30, 2009 at 4:32pm

This is the exact reason i got divorce in the first place. The fire dept was here before you and it will be here after you.!.

Permalink Reply by Chel on March 30, 2009 at 4:48pm

There are alot of people who will understand that what you all do as firefighters isn't just what you love it is who you are, it is a hard thing to understand when the one you love is always leaving you to go help someone else, but at the same time, not sure how anyone could tell any of you---females included--to stop being who you are. You are amazing people and to give up your lives for what you do is just amazing to me. Relationships are hard no matter what..firefighters....doctors...lawyers..everyday people...there is always going to be some issue. But dont let people change who you are!

Permalink Reply by Wes Smith on April 2, 2009 at 10:39am

Look it's part of it. There has to be a balance. Why do you think the divorce rate is so high. You'll find firefighters who are married to some form of public servant i.e. police, ems, fire. last alot longer because they get it. If your volunteer it is even harder because they don't see the benefit because your doing it for free...Good Luck

Permalink Reply by Mandi on April 2, 2009 at 6:53pm

Of course we exist. Were just few and far between. However were prolly involved in a department in some way. Such as the doughter of a FF or a FF ourselves. FFs arnt the only ones that have this problem the Militarys the same way. Its hard to explain to someone that doesnt understand why we do it. If they arnt willing to take the time to understand why you "run in while every else is running out" they aint worth it! You shouldnt give up something you love because someone cant understand what it means to save a life! And if you really like them then try to get them involved. Their are other things to do in a dapartment other than FF. Getting them involved will let them see first hand why you do what you do and if they still dont get it then it wasnt ment to be. Life sucks and people are selfish. Dont give up I'm sure you'll find her. I'm the doughter of a FF, a FF, and Active Duty Military and some guys cant handle that, so it aint just you guys that have this kind of problem!

Permalink Reply by jessica on April 2, 2009 at 7:18pm

hay you got to keep looking for that right person look for some one all redy in the emergency biz you kown like police EMS or fire. keep surching for em sooner or later you will find them. keep it strong brother

Permalink Reply by Jonny Vance on April 2, 2009 at 10:04pm

I have to say that I am almost hired on as a full time firefighter (they gave out 14 conditional job offers and are keeping 12) so lets hope my luck holds on. I am 23 and single and there is no way that some girl is going to say you can't do this job cuz it's dangerous...no shit! But guess what else is dangerous, swimming, driving, everything has risks. I broke off a relationship of 3 years because my girlfriend didn't want to "WORRY" about me! If i'm supposed to come home i'll be home if not I was probably risking it to help someone...I told her that and she didn't care so I said good bye.