So my best friend and I were discussing the benifits and challenges of dating someone who is in Fire/EMS versus someone who has no background in Fire/EMS. Both of us agreed that having someone in the same "service" helps you to debrief from work etc but we didn't find much more of pro's and con's for either side. What's your experience?
I dated a guy who didn't like my profession, everytime he heard the alarm of my pager, he would panic b/c he always thought what ever my call out be whether a Fire, MVA or a Medical house call, he would get upset & ring a fellow Firefighter hoping he is on call with me, to make sure I stay safe & to keep an eye on me, it bothered me sometimes, b/c my fellow fireman would follow me everywhere,he didn't like the fact that we would all sit & debrief after ever bad situation, especially when there were only 3 females & 10 males, I called it quits after awhile b/c he didn't like me talking about my emergency calls etc...so it was best to not say anything at all that was...8 years ago then I got myself tangled up in an online dating scam with a Man I met on this site in August 2010 he is neither a Fireman or an EMT, He was another guy who never really cared about what I did for a living & how much I enjoy my profession, he would start off asking how was my day & as soon as I started telling him about the highlights of my amazing day at work or a massive Fire we put out, he would just say ok...then proceed to ask for money, he never really cared about anything I did or what risks I went through in a busy day at work...he sent me loads of love letters & sad stories, then with 2 weeks of us chatting he was off to Africa, he said he owned an Antique store in Los Angeles which makes great money all of a sudden within 2 days of arriving in Africa he was sending me messages of wanting me to send him Money, I sent him NZ One thousand dollars which cost me an extra $200 to send by Western Union & he kept asking for more money, my instincts told me to hold back as this Man stayed in Africa for 1 year with a little 5 year old boy back in LA he just kept hounding me for more money, When he finally said within a year he was back in LA with his son he still kept writing to me asking for money & when I never returned anymore money to him he just ignored me... but it didn't stop him from going back on this site trying to find other females to give sad stories to...who else has this Man tried...his Name is Fred Martins from Los Angeles CA United States...he should not be on this site, he is a scammer so our fellow Female Fire fighters be very careful & Vigilant of this Man, do not listen to any of his sad stories or else you will be duped just like me, so glad I listened to my instincts I told him I didn't have anymore money, but my family do & I told them about his scamming ways...so glad to be rid of him...I now date a lovely Man who is a Senior Fireman, we have only just started dating in the last 2 & a half months & he lives 12 kms from where I live, he is very understanding, & we both enjoy each others different stories of our daily tasks at work we both have an adrenalin rush on what we both love & that's fighting fires & saving lives with total TRUST & HONESTY...we have spoken about working together in the same Brigade, but in the mean time we will just carry on as we are at different posts for the time being, I am also studying to be a Nurse which fits in well with both Fire Service & EMT...at the moment life is great...keep safe out there....:) I am 100% on top of the WORLD...I Love it...:)
I I was married to a wonderful man who had retired from the Marine Corps and he had nothing to do with the fire service. We were blissfully happy until he passed away. Many years later i dated and married a man who loved the idea of my career choice but later into our marriage started making comments about how he wanted to join the fire service but did not for a variety of reasons. I could not discuss anything to him about my shifts because he did not want to hear it. He also had difficulty with my relationships with my male coworkers so......He left me. It was very difficult to handle but we have been separated now 9 months. The sting is still there but he was caustic to our relationship.