Can a male who has been with the department a while please explain to me the code that says you can't say "I love you" on the phone in front of the guys because you will appear weak? Is that for real?
Ummmm.... maybe its like that at some dept's but not at mine. All of the guys and gals are pretty open about telling their spouses they love them when on the phone. Its not really a big deal.
I've been in the fire service 27 years and I've never been afraid to say I love you, on the phone or in person. There is no code that says you can't, and it does not make you appear weak. You might get some grief from the other guys for saying it, but it's all done in fun and everyone knows it. Look up the forum" What's the last thing you say" her on FFnation
I would think that if anyone felt that they appeared weak because they said 'I love you' on the phone, then perhaps they are 'weak'? I've never heard of any problem with this.
Oh, Why I Joined the Fire/EMS: To be around hot firefighters
Really? That's a bit of a sad reason isn't it? If it's a joke, perhaps a (laugh) after it might be an idea...
I personally don't feel like this is weak at all. I tell my wife and daughter "I love you" all the time over the phone. I never get a funny look or comment or anything. One thing that the ones that are making fun of the one say it have to realize is, you are a husband, father, son, brother, uncle and grandson at all times in your life. I am a firefighter every third day. I am incredibly proud of being a firefighter, but it fails in comparison to being a husband, father, son, brother, uncle and grandson. Your family are the ones that are there when your firefighting is done. You have to take that into consideration.
I THINK THEY ARE JUST HAVING SOME FUN WITH U IT LIKE ALL GUYS WILL BUST YOUR CHOPS ABOUT STUFF LIKE THAT BUT NO ONE REALLY CARES. I WOULDNT WORRY ABOUT IT.
Thank you everyone who replied to my discussion questions. I really appreciate it. I really needed your answers and you came through for me. Now I just need to decide how to handle my situation. Thanks again and STAY SAFE. Lisa
Lisa, have never heard of any "code" that states this. As a matter of fact the troops that I've had the honor of working with almose always made it a point to tell thier wives, girlfriends that they loved them.