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Hey everyone i am kinda new to a blog, but i wanted to know why firefighters have a high divorce rate? i know this is not what people like to talk about but i am from a family who has become divorced and i dont what my future family to be like that so thats why i am asking this question. i am really interesed in honesty please let me know. oh yes, i have been with a firefighter for over five years.
Thanks,
Nicole
Thanks,
Nicole
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Permalink Reply by Damo on
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I think it is a two way street, both people in the relationship must try and understand where the other is coming from and their needs. Of course we enjoy what we do, the camaraderie, the craziness in the calls and whatever else comes with the job. But, we also have a spouse or better half at home worried sick about us. So, if we go running out at every excuse I can understand why they would get mad and this could lead to a seperation. But, I don't think it is just because we are FF, I have seen the same thing happen to people that work 80-100 hours trying to support their families or the guy that plays golf 5 times a week. But, on the other side if this is what we enjoy, then they must try and understand that also. So, a balance must be sought and everyone comes to an understanding.
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Permalink Reply by Art "ChiefReason" Goodrich on
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Divorce rate among firefighters and cops didn't even make the Top Ten in the most recent study conducted by Radford University.
The Top Ten in descending order is :
Professional dancers
Bartenders
Massage therapists
Gaming cage workers
Gaming social services workers
Extruding machine operators
Telephone operators
Factory workers (food and tobacco)
Nurses
Home health aides
So; unless you're a dancing firefighter who tends bar, I don't think that you are any more prone to divorce than a civil engineer.
The national divorce rate is somewhere around 41%. Divorce rate has been down the past couple of years because of the economy. Contrary to popular belief, financial crisis doesn't necessarily lead to divorce.
Perhaps we are putting off divorce until the markets rebound; who knows.
But, I find it amusing that some believe these urban myths of "oh; I can't stand not knowing if he/she will come home again" or "I'm afraid he/she will be attracted to firefighters of the opposite/same sex". You need to be more concerned about whether they dance or tend bar as a side job.
Marrying into the firefighting field is not the kiss of death.
It's about relationships and expectations and honoring the vows that were taken.
If you do that, it doesn't matter what occupation you do.
IMHO.
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Permalink Reply by Fabulous Heather Days of Summer on
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So where is it on the list...?
if it is not on the top 10 jobs which all include naked people or mass production machinery or an addictive atmosphere...
Since it costs between $30-50 K per spouse for the average divorce - I think people just can't afford divorce right now - LOL - so many people are saying "I've stayed with the ass this long, at least I will stick it out until I get my job back and a house back - so then I can take it from them" - hee hee
or your friends will not support a divorce right now - because they will say "at least your spouse has a job right now!"
Also, much fewer people are getting married in this newer generation - they just live together or date long-term, so there are fewer people even available to get divorced. So check the rate of marriage among firefighters.
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Home health aides have a divorce rate of 21%, so divorce rate among firefighters and cops is below 21%. Professional dancers are at 48%.
See; all that stuff about firefighters have a higher alcoholism or drug addiction rate, higher suicide rate, higher divorce rate, higher this and higher that is just chatter.
People are hung up on the romanticism of believing that along with our elevation to a higher standard comes the emotional baggage that causes firefighters to affect their families and the people around them.
The only rate that I have seen go up is the number of firefighters getting caught setting fires.
If you want to worry about something, worry about that.
Or firefighters taking pictures and videos on their cell phones of fatal car crashes and then putting them on YouTube. When you look at that, divorce PALES by comparison.
IMHO.
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Permalink Reply by Wade Seely on
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No problem Derek, take care stay safe.
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Permalink Reply by Rob Kennedy on
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It sure does take a strong woman to deal with you being gone,I work 50 hours a week and then with the fire dept usually another 20-30 sometimes more if Im on course for a weekend.
my wife knows it makes me happy so she understands.
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A man goes into a store to buy a barbie for his daughter. He asks the man behind the counter what Barbies he has. The man behind the counter replies, " I have malibu barbie for $19.95, fashion Barbie for 19.95, Doctor Barbie for 19.95, and Divorced Barbie for $265.95." The Other man says $265.95 why is that one so much."
The worker replies, " Well she comes with Ken's house, Ken's car, Ken's boat, and one of Ken's Friends."
TCSS
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So, we are going to discuss the "high" divorce rate even though it isn't?
I hope we don't get into another "why ff wives are special" again.
We can't leave out the husbands of female firefighters either.
I mean; when we talk about cheating, it's usually the man, right?
Anyone got the stats on that?
Or is it another urbane legend?
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Permalink Reply by Daniel O Houghton on
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As a FF and FF chaplain for the last 20 years, I would say that stress has a lot to do with it. Not just the stress of the FF, but the spouse who waits also worries if their loved one will come home. Added to long periods of time away from home, and the somewhat closed social nature of many departments and stations and you have the recipe for maritial disaster.
by the way, it's not just firefighters, the same holds true for ems and law enforcement folks.
they need to learn to share with their spouses, and spouses often need to learn how to listen to their Emergency Service loved one.
Rev. Dann Houghton,
N. Douglas Fire and EMS
Oregon
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Permalink Reply by Paul Montpetit on
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The key is to keep your girlfriends and wives separate, never let them meet one another....Is this what you were talking about ?
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Permalink Reply by Bekks on
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I didn't realize FF had high divorce rates... I know COPS do...
My ex-wife complained that my volunteer work with the police years ago (12 hours / month) was a sore point.
My CURRENT wife "gets me" AND we are both on the same volly FD... both FF.
If we have a family dinner or something when the pager goes off, we BOTH go (and leave the grandparents with the rest of the family - "be back soon"!!)
Whether it is firefighting or business executive or gas pump jockey, the key is meeting a REALLLY compatable person and communicating effectively right from the start.
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