So, I'm new to the whole FF lifestyle. I've been dating my FF for a few months and boy this is hard. I'm very independant and keep busy. But how do you deal with only seeing them once or twice a week? I think its so hard because we are so new in the relationship and I'm used to seeing the guy I'm dating daily and now I'm lucky if I see him once or twice a week. How do you deal with this emotional part of it?
I am married to my firefighter and he is a vol. but I am lucky if I get to him at nights when he comes home, it is hard going day by day not seeing them and it is upsetting but when you are with him spend as much time with him as possiable, I know it isnt very much advice but I hope that I haved helped a lil
I think the dating part is the hardest thing. I've been with my guy forever and a day so I've never dated. lol Honestly. But our friends are newly together and it's been a big difference for her. She's very independent and had her girlfriends previously. HOWEVER, they don't "get" it. She melded with us wives right away and we appreciate her communication with us. He's been our brother longer so we love that she is willing to be a part of us and join in with us for events we have.
I realize this may not help as some departments and/or shifts aren't the same as ours. I've heard that you really need to keep up with your friends you had previously. If you want to make this relationship work, then you need to force those previous friends to understand. I can agree with that. They can't understand unless you push on them how happy you are, but how hard it is when they are gone and you need their support even more on those days.
My husband and I have been together since we were 20, so dating has been out of the picture for a while. He just left teaching to join the MFD. The academy was hard, especially once school started - then I was a single mom of 4 +1 kids trying to get them ready for school, while I was starting a new teaching job. He graduated 10/28 and now we are trying to find our groove. He has a 24/48 schedule, so it is all new to us.