Ok...I am not sure if this discussion has taken place before or not. If so my apologies. But, I was wondering if anyone else has had or currently in a situation where their spouse or Girl Friend/Boy Friend or what ever is not supportive of you being in the Fire Service. If so how are you or how did you handle it.
Ok here is my question you are all talking about them getting mad about you running off to calls when you have plans, or in the middle of the night, or hangin out at the hall. What about all the other stuff that we have to do, I am not sure how many of you are involved, with the administrative aspect of stuff, but that is what really pisses my other half off. On free nights I have to spend time reasearching prices for equipment, putting all of the fire reports into firehouse, entering all of our preplans into our laptop, developing our pre incident plans, creating street indexes. Not to mention being on the building committee and having addtional projects that need to be taken care of. All of this on top of running normal calls and basic responsobilities of being an officer. All of that is what pisses off the wives and girlfriends at my station.
I've lost many a girlfriend due to the firehouse. I have always explained at the beginning of the relationship that the firehouse is a very big part of my life, but that doesn't mean I don't care about you and it doesn't mean that I don't feel bad (sometimes) when I miss something we had planned because of a fire or ambulance call. Eventually most will either decide that it just isn't something they can do and move on or they will realize that you do truely care about them, but you feel the need to serve your community and the firehouse is how you do it.