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Greetings to everyone here on FFN. This is my first posting. I havent had as much time as I would like to spend here on this great site. My posting here has to do with some of the hardest decisions I have had to make in my life in quite some time.
I am going though a divorce and had left the state of Utah to move home back with my parents. Well, I am back in Utah, closer to my kids and have just recently been able to be with them again. I was all set to return to my position as a wildland firefighter with the BLM here in Southeastern Utah. I thought I was almost guaranteed a slot. Well, it turns out that all of the cherished positions here in Moab were scooped up. So, my last option is the United States Forest Service. I cannt decide whetehr or not to return to fire in this capacity. Being with my children again has meant the world to me, but it was so hard not being on the fireline last year, and I don't know if i could go through that again this year. I want to spend as much time as I can with my kids, but i also want to return to what i love and do best... fighting fires... How can I balance both of these. My children mean the world to me and having not been with them for months has definitely put a strain on my life and my mind. Is there a way to balance both, tresting both the kids and the job equally. How do all of you with families balance what I deem as the two most important jobs in the world...? those being mother/fatherhood and firefighting? Advice would be greatly appreciated. To me there is no greater feeling than being a father, or being a firefighter.
I am going though a divorce and had left the state of Utah to move home back with my parents. Well, I am back in Utah, closer to my kids and have just recently been able to be with them again. I was all set to return to my position as a wildland firefighter with the BLM here in Southeastern Utah. I thought I was almost guaranteed a slot. Well, it turns out that all of the cherished positions here in Moab were scooped up. So, my last option is the United States Forest Service. I cannt decide whetehr or not to return to fire in this capacity. Being with my children again has meant the world to me, but it was so hard not being on the fireline last year, and I don't know if i could go through that again this year. I want to spend as much time as I can with my kids, but i also want to return to what i love and do best... fighting fires... How can I balance both of these. My children mean the world to me and having not been with them for months has definitely put a strain on my life and my mind. Is there a way to balance both, tresting both the kids and the job equally. How do all of you with families balance what I deem as the two most important jobs in the world...? those being mother/fatherhood and firefighting? Advice would be greatly appreciated. To me there is no greater feeling than being a father, or being a firefighter.
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Comment by LEO AFD389NY on April 4, 2008 at 3:48pm
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YOU HAVE A TOUGH DECITTION TO MAKE. WHEN I FIRST STARTED IN THE FIRE SERVICE IT WAS ALL FIRE. NOTHING ELSE MADE A DIFFERANCE. WHEN I WAS AN OFFICER IN MY VOLUNTEER DEPT. THE FIRE DEPT. WAS FIRST ON MY LIST. I WOULD DROP EVERY THING TO GO NO MATTER WHAT. SOME OF THE YOUNG GUYS THAT COULD NOT MAKE UP YTHERE MONDS WHAT TO DO . THERE JOB OR THE FD. I ALWAYS TOLD THEM THAT THERE JOB AND FAMILY COMES FIRST. BACK THEN I HAD A JOB WERE I COULD LEAVE AND STILL GET PAID. I ALSO HAD A FAMILY. THAT SOMETIMES DID NOT MATTER. PAGER WOULD GO OFF SEE YA. JUST IN THE LAST COUPLE OF YEARS I LOST MY OFFICERS POSSITION. IT GOT ME TO THINKING OF WHAT I WUST TO SAY. NOW MY JOB COMES FIRST THEN MY FAMILY AND THEN THE FD. YOUR PROBLEM IS A LITTLE DIFFRENT BUT NOT TAHT MUCH. YOUR JOB IS THE FD. I THINK THAT YOU HAVE TO GO WERE YOUR HEART SENDS YOU. IF IT IS TO THE FD THEN GO FOR IT. MAYBE YOU WILL NOT BE GONE LONG BEFRO YOU CAN TRANSFER BACK. I HOPE THAT I COULD HELP YOU. THANKS AND GOOD LUCK TO YOU. MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND YOUR FAMILY.
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